YOLO is a no go
29 May 2012 Leave a Comment
in Be Real, Lesson Learned, life
So I have an issue with this whole YOLO idea. . .You only live once. Drake has come around and made a quick phrase out of something nobody really though that much about. People have taken things to the extreme with YOLO. Now while I understand there are moments in life that only come a dime a dozen and you should seize the opportunity but most of the things people are doing are ridiculous. All moments in life don’t even need YOLO like. . .walking around with no shoes and eating cereal with a fork, . . .If thats how you only live once, then you need to reevaluate your life!
I mean people are out here drinking past their limit and getting sick
dropping out of school
getting into fights where you know your about to lose your whole face
calling off weddings d
driving down the wrong side of the street
jumping in a pool and you cant swim
heart attacks due to an influx of Cookout
having sex with no condom (another post will be done on this)
blowing rent money
having sex with random people
going on random ventures where there is a possibility it will be their last one.
. . .and so many more all because of YOLO! I mean as stated before, since when did people believe they lived more then one time?
I’m sorry but YOLO is not for me! At least not in the crazy sense. I have hopes and dreams that I need to be present for, responsibilities that need to be taken care of, places to go and people to see so I don’t have time because I do only live once so I need to make sure I do it in a timely manner. YOLO should be used for positive things, like going back to school, using your money on something beneficial not what is stated above. People please use YOLO responsibly, you are not Drake nor are you invincible just cuz you said YOLO before you did something. You will be DOA if you keeping doing YOLO stuff, guarantee it.
Sourpatch out
Africa pt 1
20 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
Words can’t describe how much I miss Africa. All cliche statements apply. I know why people go to Africa to clear their heads, it works! I had the experience of a lifetime. I learned so much about myself and the world around me and how much change is needed. My idea of Africa is not the same and my plan is to change peoples mind about the CONTINENT (not country). There are so many different aspects of Africa and I barely even got to see a piece of it. I bet so many great people, enjoyed great food, went to beautiful places and dropped every stereotype that I ever had. I have too much going on in my head right now to say everything but I will say that if you ever get the the chance 1. to study abroad 2. go to Africa, I promise you, you will never regret it! Best decision I made in years. Well look for part 2, probably may be like 10 but until then, Sourpatch out!
Bring it Back
20 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
in Africa, Blog, Gone, Missing
Yeah so I’M BACK! I have actually been back since 2nd week of December but I have been busy since I touched down. Not gonna say much in this post but THANK YOU! to everyone who followed my blog while I was in South Africa. It means alot to know that people actually cared about what was going on with me and my whereabouts. Also THANK YOU! to those who follow me regardless. I ramble but in the end I have knowledge that I want to share. The next task I have is actually translating what I free lance in my notebook into this blog, but God ain’t through with me yet lol. Anywho, summer is coming up and I will have a little bit more time on my hands. Until then, bare with me! Look out for my next few posts tho and THANK YOU AGAIN! =)
Transition
27 Nov 2011 1 Comment
in Africa, Be Real, Gone, Idea, life, Missing, Operation Recovery
My pastor said today that you cannot control, your opposition being those against you but you can control your retaliation and transition. Retaliation being your revenge and transition being a new place. I had to transition. . .and I did.
This past year was hard for me, personally. I was having trouble with school and friends but more with myself. I was emotionally drained. The things that I wanted from life were not happening and my environment was not making it better. It was getting to the point where I didn’t want to get up and the things that once made me happy weren’t. The obligations I had I did not want to do and nothing was working in my favor. It was getting to the point where my skin and hair was becoming effected. let myself carry too much emotional baggage and it was weighing me down. I wasn’t depressed but I was getting there therefore it was time for a change.
The change I needed was a new environment and new people. It wasn’t that the friends and family I had weren’t there for me but nothing seemed to be enough. I decided that studying abroad was my only option. Vacation would only bring me back to the place that was causing my stress so I needed a much more serious removal. That removal brought me here to South Africa where I have gained myself back. I have found out more here about myself then I ever could have. Although I did have 6 months to do it, it was the time away that I needed. I can come back now to the states with a fresher mind, body and spirit; ready to take on any challenges I face with God on my side. I found the me that was missing. Don’t want to sound sappy but its true. I miss my family and friends now and want to see my “new”, old self around the people I love and care about. I have transitioned back to the real me and couldn’t be happier =)
30 Oct 2011 Leave a Comment
in Be Real, Idea, Ughh. . Boys
okay so I was reading a blog (blog post here: http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2011/10/why-men-dont-approach-you.html) and it gave reasons as to why men do not approach women. Now I’m not sure if its an old fashion thing . . . scratch that. . . I just don’t like rejection. I would have no problem speaking to a guy if I knew it would work in my favor. Although I do have implications to believe that if a guy wants a girl he will approach her. For men to claim all of the masculinity they supposedly have, whats wrong with approaching a girl first? Now I understand there are some sweet (not gay) guys who don’t want to get rejected or not really sure what to say to a girl. My thing is, just start a conversation. Usually within the first conversation with someone, you can pretty much get a feel for what kind of person they are. But with that said, your non-verbal can have a large effect on your approachable-ness (i.e dress, body language, lack of teeth, etc). There have been very few occasions (I will admit that I have) where I initiated conversation and the conversation led to some dates and so on but I will say that it didn’t last long. Not to say it was who I approached or that I did it in the first place but things just didnt work out. But I would not have known so if I didnt say anything. Now that happens on very rare occasions, usually when I go out I’m dancing, keeping the wall up, people watching or enjoying friends and I do see a cute guy, I don’t really act on it, just make eye contact and keep it moving. But I like to converse so sometimes I will just speak just to be nice or I see your cute and then I think about conversing with you lol. Anywho, maybe as time goes on I will get the courage to speak but as of right now my high confidence is at an all time low, so I wont speak! Who knows. . . .got my eye on a cutie back home so that may change =)
Can’t em’ do it
18 Oct 2011 Leave a Comment
in Be Real, Lies, life, Love, Ughh. . Boys
I don’t know what it is about girls and lying to themselves about not wanting to be in a relationship. You can not tell me that not being in a relationship and not wanting to deal with the mail species gives you the okay to have different men in your bed every night saying “its only sex”. Your basically contradicting yourself, unless your that type of girl, having all these men in your bed just means that your looking for one thing; someONE. There are very few females good at hiding their feelings but one problem most girls have, is the inability to gradually have those feelings for a man increase and not let them come full throttle all because he sent you a good morning text. We all fall for the okie doke and its okay, what’s not okay is the belief that once you have fallen for it, you have to keep up with it. Being thirsty is a sucky quality for a girl to have. Once a man pays you attention, you go off the deep end. Most men’s specialty is sweet talking and it works, trust me I know. But don’t lie to me and everyone around you saying that it doesn’t work, we all know that it does and we know that you have been wanting a man for the longest time and one comes along and finally pays you some attention so you have to give him your next 3 paychecks. Its not what you wanted but it will work. Settling is the worst buts what’s worse is feeling like you need a man. Something my pastor said last week (I am not getting religious, no worries) is “God puts a man in your life to compliment you, not complete you”. The man in your life should be someone there for you and you two have created something special together not a “he will do” man. I used to be the type to say screw love and its not meant for me. I will be honest though, I was one of those girls. For the longest time I lied to myself and told myself and others that its not meant for me to be in love nor meant for me to have a man love me. Truth is, it is meant for me and I DO want a relationship. . . .when the time is right for me to have one and right now for me is not the time. I have so much life to live and being with someone is not my prerogative as of right now. I will let me actions dictate my status relationship wise. I don’t need a man right now, so I will act like it. Let me do me for a while and get myself together so that way when a man comes along, I will be ready mentally and emotionally. I’m just not lying to myself about it because it is true that I do want a relationship. But as of right now, I can’t em do it.
Passion
18 Oct 2011 Leave a Comment
in Be Real, life, Love, School
So I was doing some research for a paper and had to observe a 3-4 year old classroom. Now with observing your not allowed to interact so I stood in the back of the playground just writing. A little girl came to me and said “she wants you”. I don’t want to ignore children so I went over to a little girl sitting by herself. She said to me “no one wants to join my tea party, can you?”.
This was my first time in this classroom and this girl had never seen me before but she invited ME to her tea party. Now I know I am 21 and she is like 3 but something about her wanting me, a complete stranger at her tea party out of 30 other children made me realize how much I love children. I like being invited to tea parties and given strawberry cakes made from sand. I kind of live vicariously through children. We grow up so quickly and lose our creativeness and imagination socialized to believe that once childhood is over we have to grow up. Being mature is one thing but losing your ability to have fun is another. My passion is children. Everything that they do is amazing and intriguing. I want to work with children and let them know that they can take their time to grow up, adulthood is not all its cracked up to be.
Once I started having “tea” with the little girl, I look up to see 8 other children around me wanting to play and asking me what my name is(funny feeling having a 3 year old tell you that you have a beautiful name) and sharing their stories with me, I lost myself and realzied that I had been sitting there playing with them for 45 minutes. I never doubted that working with children was my passioin but somthing about today made me realize that this is my calling in life and God put me on this earth to teach children and show them the positive ways of the world.
What’s your passion and are you on your way to living it? I know I am =)
